The point is, guys aren’t “holding back” from banging fat guys because of taboo. Fat-worship is in the same fringe category as an exclusive foot fetish, or someone who eroticizes amputees. Most gay guys don’t say “I can only get off on huge biceps” or “I can only get off on guys who are morbidly obese”. But most gay guys are attracted to a relatively wide spectrum of different guys. Most gay guys have some sort of general “type”. It reminds me of the men who wind up obsessed with women’s feet and shoes after spending their early childhood playing in the floor of a women’s salon, surrounded by high-heeled feet. The way this guy talks about “fat” makes it his fetish. Some guys (gay or straight) can only get off with pain. Some guys (gay and straight) can only get off on feet. Fetish is focusing on one aspect of a potential partner and only being able to get off if the partner possesses that characteristic. That said, I can’t help but believing that when this self-professed hunk is walking hand-in-hand with his fat friend that the average person who sees him that he has been bought and paid for for the night/day – no matter how genuine their relationship may be.Īrkansas Jack77: Fetish isn’t the same as having a “type”. What I’ve learned is that the opportunity for fat guys like me of finding someone are small enough that it’s ridiculous to rule someone out because of my body dysmorphia. When I was younger I used to avoid chubby chasers because I couldn’t get my head around why someone would want me for exactly the one thing about myself I hated the most. I can’t get to know what kind of person you are if I never talk to you and the chances of us talking and having a meaningful conversation are nearly nil if we don’t have that initial attraction that makes us want to know more about each other. Alan down in GLF: Don’t you think you’re putting the cart ahead of the horse? Without the initial attraction the likelihood of finding out all the information that you consider important is low.